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I often talk with women and teenage girls who are searching for self-worth. And it seems that they’re usually searching in the wrong places. They work more on “fixing” the outside rather than the inside. And that’s not where genuine worth comes from. Here are six suggestions that I think can help women improve their self-worth:

1. Take a look at your heart. Real beauty comes from within. 1 Peter 3:4 encourages us to: “Cultivate inner beauty, the gentle, gracious kind that God delights in.” (The Message). So with God’s help make the necessary changes in your character. Ask yourself: Do I need to be more loving and forgiving? Do I need to be gentler in my voice tone or actions? Do I need to be more kind to those I love, as well as to strangers?

2. Change what you can change physically. Just because we shouldn’t be consumed with our looks doesn’t mean that we should look unkempt. Stand in front of the mirror and ask yourself if there are some things you could change that would make you feel more confident.

3. Accept the physical things that you can’t change. Every woman has flaws. No one is perfect. When I was twenty years old, I needed kidney surgery that left a twelve-inch scar around my waist. It took awhile, but a few years later my future husband convinced me that the scar doesn’t change who I am. It doesn’t change my mind or my heart.

4. Don’t criticize yourself. Don’t put yourself down—in front of others or in your mind. When tempted to criticize yourself, find something positive to say instead.

5. Don’t compare yourself to other women. You are your own unique person—one of a kind! The people who love you, love you for who you are. You’ll always find someone who is more slender, who has prettier clothes, or who has better hair. But remember, you have your own assets.

6. Realize your worth in God’s eyes. How does He measure your worth? To Him, you’re worth dying for! Besides, these earthly bodies aren’t forever. We’ll all get new, perfect ones at the second coming.

It’s time to stop looking to the media to tell us what is beautiful. Your physical body isn’t what’s most important. It only houses what’s inside. The Bible says that these are the traits we need on the inside: “love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control” (Galatians 5:22, 23, RSV). These are what we should strive toward. These make us truly beautiful.

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