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Today’s mail brought a love note. Our mail lady delivered it in a cluster mail box. My husband has no reason to be jealous; in fact the note pleased him too. Someone took time to say, “I care.”

It’s not often that handwritten mail arrives anymore because most folks resort to e-mail these days. Though such stationery may be virtual, love can speak through the Internet just as well as on the finest parchment paper. The fact that we take the time to express to someone they are important to us is what matters.

Staying in touch is important to relationships, and probably more so through the words we share than anything else. Yes, we can sit in silence with a good friend and not say anything, except hold a hand, especially when times are difficult and words can’t come. Yet for the relationship to bond, conversation is important. And conversation in writing may go even further because the missive can be tucked away for another day or year to be savored.

Abraham Lincoln called writing “The great invention of the world.” It’s a connector between us.  It’s what I think of as one third of the meaningfulness of the human connection, along with speech and touch: all equal love speak.

There is the writer who discovers that writing is his or her utter joy and there is the person who groans at writing anything—even a short note. Fortunately, for that person, Hallmark and other card companies fill in the gap. Such notes and letters often serve as necessities to bond relationships. I recall a person who once told me that he can’t understand how writers can enjoy their work. His idea of writing an essay is utter misery. And to make matters worse he doesn’t enjoy choosing cards to send. He feels that they’re sappy and rip offs money wise, as well. He’s entitled to his opinion, of course. I wonder if he has a close circle of friends?

I Care

Non-communication is usually the main ingredient for failed marriages—and any human relationship. To thrive and build our relationships, touch, kindly spoken words, or writing good  thoughts are keys that open doors to providing happiness for others. Just as the love note I received this week. Each is a way of saying, “I care.” Just as the opposite is true—by disregarding such actions.

Today, shake a hand, touch a shoulder or give a hug where appropriate.

Today, ask someone, “How are you?” And listen, really listen, as he or she answers or perhaps call someone on the phone to say, “I was thinking of you.”

Today, write a few words of encouragement to someone. (One easy but meaningful way is to write short notes on small cards and slip them into hands at church, including kids.)

Take your pick. You’ll be blessed because love speak is like a boomerang, it comes back to you. Hint: Love speak goes a long way at home!

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