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Be the Bigger Person
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No matter how hard you try, there are going to be people in your everyday life that you don't get along with.

My friend and I had a reasonably good friendship. We weren’t the best of friends, but we were there for each other when needed. I had known her for about four years, and we had gotten to know one another on a somewhat personal level. Then one day, we disagreed on something and though we talked it out,  it ended up completely ruining what we had.

Have you ever felt like giving up on being the bigger person?

There are days where you may be able to handle being nice to someone who doesn’t return the favor. The first couple of weeks you may tell yourself it’s a phase that will pass. But when it doesn’t, you may feel discouraged. There are times that you want revenge for what that person has done to you, or how they are treating you. You may pray to God for strength, but you still fall into temptation wanting to make that person feel what you feel. When you have no desire left within you to go ahead and show that person the kindness they do not deserve, you may breakdown, and feel like giving up.

Place of Misery

“What is the point?” you may ask yourself. If the person seems to be going on with their life just fine while you seem to be caught in this place of misery, God is the only one who can deliver you. The moment you feel like you are about to crack, with absolutely no strength within you, turn to Him. He is the Deliverer of all. The Lord promises to help us through the tough times we go through.

God loves us no matter what we do, or what we’ve done. It does not matter where we are from or what our past was like. God is always there with open arms to receive us. John 13:34 says, “A new command I give you: love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another.”  When it seems like you can no longer be the bigger person, lift this prayer to the Lord:

My Heavenly Father, I know that it will not always be easy to do the right thing. I know that you have commanded me to love others as You have loved us. Give me the strength I need to show kindness to those around me. May Your love shine through me.

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