His poem reminded me of what our teens need most when they get into trouble. They don’t need to be yelled at. They don’t need to be told how embarrassed they’ve made us. They don’t need to be hit. They don’t need to be told how stupid they are. Rather they need us, with God, to be an anchor.
What’s the purpose of an anchor? I have a friend who skippers boats. He tells me that when a boat is docked in the harbor, it doesn’t need an anchor because it’s safely tied to the dock. But when it’s out on the open sea, an anchor can literally be a lifesaver. An anchor holds the boat steady in a storm. It keeps the boat from drifting farther out to sea.
So it is with our teenagers. They need us as parents to “hold them steady.” To have our unconditional love and acceptance be an unchanging absolute in their lives. When our teens are facing a storm, that’s when they need us most. This doesn’t mean there won’t be consequences. But consequences need love behind them if we want our teen’s love in return.
By the way, this young man got an ‘A’ on his poem. But more than that, he turned his life around.