The Friendship Factor
“I always felt that the great high privilege, relief, and comfort of friendship was that one had to explain nothing.” --Katherine Mansfield
|Photo: Marja Flick-Buijs
Got friends? At various times throughout my life I’ve heard people complain they don’t have friends, or that people at church, in the community, or at a local barbecue aren’t friendly enough to them. Some people sit back and expect others to come to them and fulfill their every need. I must say I’ve been guilty of that complaint myself at times.
When I moved from one side of the country (where all people were friendly!) to the opposite side of the country (where I was quite sure people had an attitude problem and were very unfriendly!), I complained to my one and only local friend that this town was full of unfriendly people. I was certain it was not me that had the problem of unfriendliness.
A verse in the Bible points out that “if you expect to have friends, you have to be the one to take responsibility to reach out and be the friendly one” (paraphrased).
My happiest moments
After Thanksgiving dinner the other day while sitting in front of the crackling fire, my best friend asked me to recall the happiest moments of my life. Interesting that every happy moment I could recall had been while in the company of close friends and family members. No memory of sufficient happiness had been while sitting alone in front of the TV, or computer, or while reading a book. Wow! I thought, the happiest moments of my life have been in the flow of affection among friends!
Full joy comes from within, and from sharing that joy with those around you, whether it be in giving, receiving or equal exchange of sharing of lives and fun times together. You can’t do that alone. Everybody needs relationships involving friends.
God didn’t create us to be alone. He didn’t create Adam to spend the rest of his life naming and playing with the animals (this article is not intended to offend those of you who depend solely on your house pet for your social life). God made people to enjoy, support and encourage each other. Make it a point to be the friendly person today. Reach out, and feel the joy spread throughout your entire soul!
“Treat your friends as you do your pictures, and place them in their best light.” – Jennie Jerome Churchill