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I could now write a book titled, “Lessons Mom Taught Me.” I couldn’t have written it when I was a child, or even a teenager. But now that I’m a mom, I realize that my mom’s example taught me all along—that I stored lessons in my head and heart which I’d later remember and use.

For instance, Mom taught me how to fix both a scraped knee and a broken heart. The knee needed washing, medicine, a Band-Aid and a kiss. The heart needed a listening ear, the wipe of a tear, and an assurance that, “You’ll get through this—I’m here for you.”

Mom taught me patience. I was sometimes disciplined, but always forgiven. She was great at forgiving and forgetting. Even when I put a plastic ice cube that contained a toy fly in her lemonade glass.

Mom taught me how to know God’s love through a mother’s love. To help us better understand the warmth of His love, God likened it to a mother’s: “As a mother comforts her child, so will I comfort you…” (Isaiah 66:13). I know the warm feelings of that kind of comforting love.

Mom taught me how to let kids be kids. I got to make mud pies and bring them inside. I even tasted one (without permission). She also let me bring outdoor treasures inside. Crickets, ladybugs, honey bees in jars, and earthworms in shoe boxes got to spend the night in my room. She was only slightly astonished the day she found my pony standing in the living room. That particular pet didn’t get to spend the night inside.

Every Holiday Special

Mom taught me how to celebrate. Every holiday and birthday was made special with decorations, food, games and loved ones to share the memory. We baked cookies and cakes even though we made a mess. Colored and painted pictures covered the fridge for years.

Now that my own daughter’s a teenager, I realize that Mom also taught me how to let go. I recently asked Mom, “How did you act so happy for me when I’d leave to spend summers working at youth camp and four years away at college?” She replied, “You didn’t see the tears after you drove away.” I never knew. She wasn’t holding on to me, but letting me find my place in the world.

What lessons did your mom teach you? This Mother’s Day, why not remember some of them with her? If she has died, then remember with a sibling or other relative. If some of the memories are painful ones, then the lesson is that you can choose to be a different kind of mother. You can have a fresh start with your child, and that in itself is valuable.

So take the lessons and pass them on, adding your own. One of the greatest gifts a mom can receive is the tradition of her loving lessons being passed on from generation to generation.

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