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The Blame Game
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It’s as old as earth. Some call it rationalization. Others environmental. It’s been said that it is just the natural byproduct of dysfunctional families and systems. Simply put it is called blame.

Blame is when we get caught in a bad situation and we try to pass it off on someone or something else.

Remember Adam and Eve? After they enjoyed the fruit of the forbidden tree God showed up. He asked if they had eaten from the tree. On the spot they quickly rose to the occasion by blaming each other and the snake. Of course we know that the snake was being used by Satan, so we have been trying to blame him ever since.  Remember the comedian Flip Wilson? He is famous for his line: “The Devil made me do it!”

Blame…we’ve all done it along the way. We’ve all experienced the consequences of doing it along the way. We never get better by doing it. We never get smarter by doing it. We never really get away with it.

A wise person said: “A man can fail many times, but he isn’t a failure until he blames his failures on someone or something else.”

It’s not the end of the world to make a mistake and fail, but when we don’t learn from our mistakes we can’t get better. We get stuck in the blame game.

From Blamers to Blameless

God wants us to stop being blamers and become blameless.

David talked about being blameless: “Lord, who may dwell in your sanctuary? Who may live on your holy hill? He whose walk is blameless and who does what is righteous, who speaks the truth from his heart and has no slander on his tongue, who does his neighbor no wrong and casts no slur on his fellowman, who despises a vile man but honors those who fear the Lord, who keeps his oath even when it hurts, who lends his money without usury and does not accept a bribe against the innocent. He who does these things will never be shaken” (Psalm 15)

Being blameless is a tall order. Is a blameless person someone who has never made a mistake? If so, none of us can ever become blameless!

Being blameless isn’t about not making mistakes, it is about asking forgiveness for our mistakes. It is “fessing” up and growing up. When we admit our mistakes and take credit for them we can be forgiven. When we are forgiven, God erases our sins and we become blameless. That’s a whole lot easier than the blame game.

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