Hanging on to anger and resentment when you perceive someone has wronged you could make you sick. In a recent study, those who learned to forgive saw not only their stress and anger subside, but also psychosomatic symptoms such as headaches and stomach upsets.
Here are forgiving strategies that work best:
Understand that forgiving doesn’t mean you’re condoning the offense.
Accept that you can’t control other people’s behavior.
Try to look at the incident from the other person’s point of view—or at least from a neutral viewpoint.
Write your reactions down in a letter, but don’t send it. This is a nonhurtful way of venting your feelings.