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A Beautiful Woman
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All women are created beautiful—but tragically some women never come to a realization of their own loveliness. Popular culture venerates its peculiar brand of beauty. Being one of the “beautiful people” is a ticket to fame and fortune and, most people thin, happiness. Popular culture would lead us to believe that beauty is reserved only for those lucky few born with a narrow range of face and figure attributes, an impossibly high standard that the rest of us cannot hope to achieve without surgical intervention.

The sense of being less-than-lovely leaves most of us feeling inadequate, even a little ashamed. We spend our lives feeling ordinary at best, imagining ourselves to be ugly ducklings, never considering that maybe we are not ducks at all. I have come to realize that the world is full of beautiful swans struggling to become lovely ducklings.

What a shame! So deep seated is our toxic self-image that we imagine our lack of beauty to be a fatal flaw, somehow our fault. When we allow ourselves to examine our darkest feelings, we are forced to admit that there is a great deal of self-loathing wrapped around the very core of who we think we are. What we wouldn’t give for a fairy godmother to wave her magic wand and turn us into the belle of the ball!

Beautiful Women Come in Every Shape, Size and Color

I think it’s time we challenged our society’s beauty culture with its rigid standards, unrealistic body expectations, and snobbish self-absorption. Beautiful women come in every shape, size, and color. Beautiful women can be young or old or any age in between. Beautiful women become more attractive every day of their lives.

You don’t believe me? I’m no surprised. The belief that surface beauty makes a woman beautiful is firmly in place. Each year thousands of aging baby boomers pursue every means at their disposal to stop the march of time with an endless variety of peels, lifts, and injections. Still, no one arrives at a ripe old age wrapped in the body of a 22-year-old.

On any given day, thousands of teenagers are convinced their lives would improve dramatically if they could just persuade their parents to have their God-given charms surgically adjusted with augmentations, facial implants, and nose bobs. In reality, force of character trumps beauty every time. Practicing narcissistic self-perfectionism cannot create a beautiful woman. Beautiful women always transcend pop-culture stereotypes in spite of whatever nose or body shape happens to be celebrated in the tabloids this month.

We assume that beauty and attraction are one and the same, but, of course, they’re not. If you choose to pursue society’s notion of outward beauty above all else, I wish you well. You are fighting a losing battle, and you will slowly watch your attractiveness and influence slip through your fingers like sand. If, on the other hand, you are ready to become a truly beautiful woman, more attractive and influential each and every decade of your life, I’ve got good news for you! Beautiful women come in every size and shape and color.

They are made from within.

I am certain that God has created you to be a beautiful woman. It is my hope that you will reclaim the sense of loveliness that is your birthright.

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By Patricia R. Garey. Portions reprinted with persmission from Signs of the Times, September 2006. Copyright © 2006 by GraceNotes. All rights reserved. Use of this material is subject to usage guidelines.

For more information check out Patricia Garey's book "Beautiful Woman" available online at: AdventistBookCenter.com or call 1-800-765-6955.

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